a woman came to my mops group. she was pregnant and had a 12 month old. upon seeing my gaggle of kids...she asked if i had any advice for her.
i smirked and said, 'just cry.'
she looked at me like i had just slapped her...so i explained myself further...
if we are real. crying when we need to cry...admitting when we are overwhelmed or stressed or needing help (even just someone to sit with us and give us some company as we fold our ever growing pile of laundry). instead of waking up 4 hours ahead of our kids to make sure our hair and make-up is done. not slaving away into the wee hours of the night making sure our house is spotless. then people know that we are in over our heads...and they are able to come to our rescue.
there is no extra credit. no bonus points. no A+ in life. not even a perfect attendance award.
there is just grace. grace and community. so be real...embrace it. just cry.